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Lol.

Poison ivy nutz.

 

nope, that stuff is evil enough on its own

 

And in a way that is fine too.
If you are perfectly happy that way. If you like not having to stress out and let your wife stress out for you.
IMO the man is the one that needs to carry the weight, the stress. While the woman should be taken care of as much as possible with those types of things.
I would rather be stressed out and my wife feel calm than me feel calm and her stressed out. Because if she is stressed out it will spill over everywhere and soon I will loose my calm. But as guys we are better at keeping our stress bottled up and then releasing it at the appropriate times... like sports. Or watching sports.

 

perhaps a euphemism

 

But life is like a bunch of chocolates.
You dont always get the kind you want.
But sometimes you get the kind you need.
I got some vegan gluten free carob pseudochocolate.
Still sweet, tastes good, but the market is not big on carob based items.
Cant just go to the market and pick up a box.
And then again I like home made customized sweets.
Which is what you are talking about. Get one tailored to your needs.
What does that old song say, Let the woman take care of you....
Problem is when you are both 40 year old adults with lives lived it is hard to be a blank slate for someone to customize.
So you gotta get into the dirt and plant your own tree... then wait for them chocolates to grow.
Even if they are carobs.
But carobs are pretty good, and already come sweet not bitter like chocolate!
They just look a little different than the chocolate sweets everyone else eats.
They may be a little tougher to chew right off the tree.
But that only makes the fruit even sweeter.

 

Is that what you think i said?
It is not a bush, it is a thick overgrowth around the backside of our house on both sides of an old broken fence surrounded by trees.
Our water drains through there and so everything grows wild.
The sarea i usually a good place for snakes to hide.
It is also a deep ravine on really loose soil.
The cesspool is there too and its ceiling has cracks you could slip into.
The area is dangerous. I have a guy working on it for a few days because my wife wants the place prettied up.
I pay the guy to do the dangerous work and to start putting down fence posts for the new fence.
We have a plan of attack for the massive amounts of poison in the area.
Chop off the flowering tops, let them fall down, dig around the roots, spray them with toxic shit, cover them with some dirt here and there, then cover with tarps and build the fence around everything.
I have lived here for close to 20 years. She is new and not familiar with poison oak and thinks its just another weed like nettle but just a little more stingier.
It is my job to instruct my family on dangers that they ignore, dont see, or cant understand.
It is not because I dont want her to cut down a bush. Or because I want to keep her from doing stuff outside.
On the contrary, she loves to garden, we live in the woods with uncountable amounts of rabbits squirrels and everything else.
They eat her crops. She does not know how to garden in the woods, how to protect your crops by interplanting with things animals and bugs detest. She wants an enclosed garden where no animals can get in.
That is what we are trying to build for her.
She got a little overexcited one day that the worker guy did not show up (he was not scheduled to work that day) and tried to do it herself.
And she hurt herself. Her neck and lower back was killing her all weekend and into the week she is still super tired. Poison oak gets in your lungs when you are cutting it down and the toxins are flying. From there it runs through your veins and causes all sorts serious inflamation in your insides. Now it is like she has asthma and has no energy. It will pass but it will take a few weeks or some months before she is better.

She did not understand the extent of the work that had to be done. And of course she tracked poison oak on herself and in the house.
She had been badgering my worker and he had changed the course of the fence and other work because of her giving him mixed instruction. We wasted a few extra poles in places that we do not need them.
The point is not that she filled us with poison oak. The point is not that she did not 'obey' or whatever. The point is that she was ignorant of what she was getting into but too stubborn to let those who have experience and have been hired to do the job. And that your nature will get you in trouble. Will get you hurt.
I know because it is my nature too. I have to struggle with the same types of things she struggles with. I am reckless and jump into the fire all the time when I see a fire that needs to be put out and people are staring at the pretty colors of the flame. But I am learning because now I am married and am not only responsible to myself and for myself. I have to think of those who do not want to see me hurt.
Nature will bend you to its will, it is stronger than you if you fight it alone and head on.

My wife is perfectly clear on poison oak now. She will never do that kind of thing again. Not because I got 'mad' at her for cutting down a bush... but because she learned the lesson first hand and has to live with consequences she does not want to repeat again.

She fucked up. Now she knows. If possible I would have the people I love stay in ignorance of things that are bad for them if it meant they would not have to suffer through the learning process that comes with fucking up.
My nature is that I would rather fuck up, suffer the consequences, and then be able to tell my family what they should stay away from so they don't follow the same fate.
But at this point I would rather none of us have to fuck up and we just stay as ignorant as possible of the consequences.

 

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